The Richer Marriage Show
In this second episode in our Better Relationship Communication Series, Tyler explains how toxic criticism is, how to spot criticism and most importantly how to stop criticism.
You must understand the difference between content and emotion. Learn more in our first episode in these series.
4 types of content that are toxic. These four items make up the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse that was found in the research by Dr. John Gottamn.
How to spot criticism
- Harsh complaining
- Placing blame
- Negative comments (statements)
There is no such thing as constructive criticism especially in relationships.
Antidote to criticism for yourself
- Understand what are you feeling
- Figure out what you need
- Only complain about a specific behavior
Antidote to criticism for your partner
- Look past their criticism and ask yourself what are they feeling
- Set Boundaries
- Ask what they need
Recourses
Blogs Post
Better Relationship Communication Series
Books
Dr. John Gottman – 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work. Where the research can be found about the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse.
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