How to stop being defensive in your marriage! |The Richer Marriage Show

This video is part of our 8 part better relationship communication series. In this video, Tyler shares what defensiveness is, what defensiveness does to your relationship, What defensive feels like. Along with giving practical advice on what ways you can be defensive in your relationship and most importantly How to stop being defensive in your marriage.

Top Takeaways From This Episode

2:31 – What is defensiveness?
3:17 – What does defensiveness do to my relationship?
5:03 – What defensiveness feels Like?
5:47 – What defensiveness looks like.
5:55 – Defensive behavior – denying responsibility
6:30 – Defensive behavior – making excuses
7:08 – Defensive behavior – second-guessing
7:57 – Defensive behavior – cross complaining
8:33 – Defensive behavior – yes,….. but
9:40 – Defensive behavior – repeating yourself
10:24 – Antidote to defensiveness – know your own defensive behavior
11:06 – Antidote to defensiveness -self-soothe
11:52 – Antidote to defensiveness – get curious about what your partner is feeling
12:41 – Antidote to defensiveness – take responsibility & hold space
13:00 – Antidote to defensiveness – remember why you love your partner.