Are you looking for a Poly Friendly Therapist?

Maybe you have been in the poly world for a long time or you are just wanting to start a poly relationship. No matter where you are on your polyamorous relationship journey; navigating the ups, downs, and all-around found in polyamorous relationships is challenging. Finding a therapist who understands the unique challenges that come with a poly relationship, will be key in your journey.

Navigating A Polyamorous Relationship

Every polyamorous relationship is slightly different. With each different person, different challenges can arrive. Here are some of the common difficulties that arise from polyamory.

What is a Polyamorous Relationship

Every poly couple has to define what their poly relationship is and is not. Are you allowed to have sex with other separately or together? Do you date as a couple or individuals? Can your new boyfriend or girlfriend date someone else? Many poly couples do not establish the rules and boundaries of what they are comfortable with. This can lead to disconnection and possible the loss of the primary relationship.

Starting Polyamorous Relationship

Maybe your wife wants a polyamorous relationship or your husband wants to bring another woman into the bed with the two of you. Or maybe you have found a gay couple you want to join. No matter how you find yourself staring into the poly lifestyle there are a number of challenges that come with it. Learning how to formulate boundaries, understanding your own desires, and developing open communication. If anyone of these aspects is not in place it can lead to conflict and hurt.

Defining your polyamorous relationship

Before you and your partner define your own poly relationship, you must define what you are looking for. Is it just sex? Are you looking for a new long-time lover? Maybe you find yourself arguing about the rules or boundaries. Maybe you have notice jealous in yourself or your partner.

Jealous, Boundaries & Families

Every relationship has boundaries and rules. You might be in a poly relationship and it has worked for you for a long time and now you find yourself becoming more jealous because something has changed. From establishing your personal boundaries to the relationship boundaries maybe you don’t know what or why you are feeling so hopeless, loss or disconnected from your partner.

Add a deeper layer of emotion to navigating your poly relationship is as a mother or father. How open are you with your lifestyle with your children? What rules have you established? Are you finding yourself more disconnected from your family because you have taken on a new lover? It can be very confusing to understand your own emotions and how they fit into your family life.

Your Not Alone

No matter if you are joining an established relationship, you have been in a poly relationship for years, or just starting to think about polyamory. You are not alone. Because of the stigma so many people do not openly share about their poly life. Yet in Las Vegas, we have prominent clubs catering to the poly way of life (From clubs like the Red Rooster, The Green Door to bathhouses like Hawks & Entourage). Polyamory receives over 6000 searches on Google a month here in Clark County NV. All this means that many people are within the poly lifestyle here in Las Vegas. And if you are experiencing any of these problems of starting, maintaining or living a poly lifestyle maybe it’s time to seek out polyamorous relationship therapy.

Polyamorous Relationship Therapy

Therapy is so much more than just understanding and solving problems that might arise from a poly relationship. When I work with clients we develop a new deeper understanding of their own emotional and sexual needs. My clients learn how to communicate those needs to their long term partners and others they choose to have a relationship with. Many poly couples use therapy as a way to renegotiate boulders on a regular interval. They have seen the power of developing healthy boundaries and see therapy as a way to maintain a strong relationship between each other and others.

Finding a poly-friendly therapist is key in developing a healthy poly relationship. Many therapists bring bias of monogamy into each couples counseling session. While they do not initially mean to undermine a poly lifestyle it can happen if you work with a therapist who has limited experience working with the kink community.

In working with poly individuals and couples I have seen the personal and relational growth that comes from therapy. My clients don’t always find what they originally wanted in therapy however they do normally leave with a deeper understanding of themselves and their needs and wants in a relationship.

Biggest Fears For Not Going to Counseling

• The therapist is going to tell me to stop having a polyamorous relationship. That might be true if you are seeking out a therapist who doesn’t understand or has not worked with polyamorous couples. Many times couples seek out counseling to talk their partner into or out of a poly lifestyle. It is not the therapist job to make any judgments about what each of you wants. I get my clients to commutate their needs and start sharing their emotional vulnerability with each other. This helps the couple look deep within their relationship and they decided what type (if any) poly relationship they want.
• Therapy is just too expensive. Counseling might be expensive or you might just have different priorities in your life. You will gain a deeper understanding of yourself through counseling. When I hear people say that it is expensive what I am really hearing is this is not a priority in my life. If your relationship is important to you, and you should be willing to do anything to fix it or strengthen it. Counseling is one of the best investment you can make in yourself and in your relationship.
• Will you really understand our problems? We might have different sex, age, and life experience. It can be scary to open up to a stranger about personal problems. I am so honored to be in the profession that can help you on your journey. I do my best to connect with you emotionally. If you want to learn more about me CLICK HERE.
  

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