In this episode of the Richer Marriage Show, Tyler answers the questions why does my partner shut down? As part of the Better Relationship Communication Series, this videos offers marriage advice on stopping shutdown from happening.
One of the marriage communication issues in a marriage is when your partner shuts down. This shutdown is called Stonewalling. Within this video Tyler explains what stonewalling is, why stonewalling happens. Points out stonewalling behavior, and most importantly how to stop stonewalling in your marriage. If you follow these stonewalling/shutdown antidote you will be on the path to managing conflict in marriage, and start to develop a healthy marriage.
Top Takeaways From This Episode
- 1:30 – Quick review from the better relationship communication series
- 2:44 – What is stonewalling?
- 3:01 – Stonewalling behavior – Being Gone
- 3:15 – Stonewalling behavior – Self Medicating
- 3:33 – Stonewalling behavior – Cell Phones
- 4:05 – Stonewalling behavior – Leaving
- 5:03 – Why is stonewalling so bad?
- 5:35 – Questions of the day!
- 5:53 – Why does stonewalling happen?
- 7:05 – How to stop Stonewalling
- 7:22 – Stonewalling Antidote – Soothe Yourself
- 8:34 – Stonewalling Antidote – Picking the right time
- 9:22 – Stonewalling Antidote – Taking A Time Out
- 11:55 – Stonewalling Antidote – Give your Partner Options
- 12:24 -Stonewalling Antidote – Lovingly Share
- 13:09 – Stonewalling Antidote – Focus on the Here & Now
Resources
Blog Post
Books
Videos
Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse
Better Communication Series
Question of the Day – How does stonewalling show up in your relationship?
- Table Topics - June 25, 2020
- How to Apologize - June 11, 2020
- What is stonewalling? |TheRicher Marriage Show - June 5, 2020