Has your marriage become toxic and unhealthy, yet you still can not decide if you should stay or go? Do you love your husband but not IN love with him? Do you often wonder how you’ll leave a dead marriage but think, “What about my kids?” “What if I can’t support myself?” It’s not uncommon for marriages to grow stale, leaving you or even your husband feeling unloved, undesired, and unhappy. The constant battle that happens in your mind and heart when trying to make decisions about something as important as your relationship is exhausting. Relationship conflict can lead to other issues such as anxiety, depression, drug, or alcohol use.

If you have children, they are recognizing on some level that something isn’t right. What you need is a supportive place and person to help you process what has happened in the relationship. What is currently happening in your world and help you identify what your needs are and if those needs can be met. Divorce and separation are significant steps and should not be taken lightly. Still, perhaps that’s where your mind is, but your body can’t seem to take you out the door, and then you may think, “Wait, if I don’t love him, then why am I not leaving him?” It can be confusing and even frightening to think of leaving a marriage. We’re offering a tool that helps point you in the right direction. Take the “Should I Leave My Husband” quiz.

Taking The First Step In Deciding Should I Stay Or Go

No marriage is 100% perfect. We’re human. People make mistakes and say bad things. But if you’ve reached a point that the relationship is possibly unable to be repaired, seeking therapy can help you work through and understand how you’ve reached this point. Ultimately help you make a decision and stop asking yourself, “should I stay or go?” Chances are it’s difficult for you to discuss issues with family and friends. This is how a Richer Life Counseling therapist can help. We know the conflict and struggles that couples encountered. We have been helping out clients in the Las Vegas community find their voice. Become empowered and assist in the processing of understanding complicated emotions that come with a decision to end a marriage or heal it. Feeling stuck in the endless loop of indecision is draining, leaving you feeling empty and lonely. You don’t have to live that way. With therapy comes clarity, and when we find clarity, we can begin making decisions that create change and growth. Perhaps the love is still there for both of you, but you can’t seem to communicate, so you withdraw from one another. Therapy with us can help you gain a greater understanding of needs. Even the ones you didn’t even realize you had. For example, you may not recognize the importance of hugging and hand-holding. Maybe your relationship has hit the 25-year mark, and you feel he doesn’t love you in the same way. Still, perhaps he does, and it only doesn’t feel right because you’re not communicating deeper emotions.

Questions YOU Might Be Asking

How do you see your future? Do you see your partner in it? You see yourself as happy and satisfied with your life? Or do you see yourself having the same argument with yourself over and over again–should I stay or go? “Will I be judged by others if I leave my marriage?” There’s no quick, simple answer about your relationship that please everyone. Chances are, there’s that tiny whisper of you hearing yourself say, “things can be better,” “things could be different,” and “I know I could be happier.” That right decision for you may be different than someone else, but that’s the point. It’s YOUR decision. Perhaps your family is nagging you to leave what appears to be an unhealthy relationship, but what they may not know is how you feel about it and if YOU want to repair it. Or their advice rings true, but you don’t know if you are capable of leaving. What outsiders don’t know is that with the right tools, an unhealthy marriage can become healthy. Some couples don’t have the guidance and tools to get to that point. Some couples have been so stuck in unhappiness that it’s become what feels normal.

Get Unstuck

If you are reading this, then most likely, you are stuck in a decision-making point in your relationship. You’ve probably been reading all the material you can find and talking to friends in hopes of finding clarity. Reading materials can be useful, but may not alone help you gain clarity. It’s okay to talk to friends and family, but they’ll always have your side, and what they believe is best for you may not be the case. Therapy can bring up uncomfortable thoughts, emotions, and memories, but learning to overcome the discomfort and heal the past and even present is key to achieving your mental health goals. These may be critical points in your finding the clarity you need to make a decision to stay or go. Here are some of the common reasons why our past clients put off attending therapy – and what finally changed their minds.

Too many decisions have to be made.

While it might seem like one decision, “should I say or should I go” really is a 100 if not thousands of smaller decisions. What about money, who takes the family photos, how do we split custody of the kids, how do we do holidays. Because deciding to leave has so many decisions wrapped up in making this choice, you can be stuck. We have found that making the decision to come to therapy, we can start to look at all these decisions individually. When our clients can look at each decision one at a time, the ability to know what to do becomes clear.

If I leave the marriage, I am a failure.

Sadness, pain, hurt, and shame all play a role in how we view ourselves when we look at our relationships. Sometimes we have expectations from our family, religious beliefs, or we know what our friends might say if we end our marriage. Looking at staying or leaving is not a reflection of if you are successful or not. We help our clients look at staying and leaving as not a measure of success but as a choice to live a more authentic, loving life. We can help you not look at the end of marriage as a failure.

Give us a call today if you are ready to rid yourself of indecision and either move forward in repairing your marriage, or move forward with a new life. We have several therapists who can help.

Richer Life Counseling therapist who specializes in working with women who are struggling with staying or leaving:

• Leslie Trammell
• Tyler Rich

Contact us today by calling or texting 702-518-1546, email,  or booking a session by hitting the appointment request button. We can normally get you into a session within 24 or 48 hours.

We offer both online therapy (learn more about online therapy here) and in-person therapy at our Las Vegas office. Our office is located in West Las Vegas right off the 95 & Rainbow. Our address is 222 S. Rainbow Boulevard | Suites 113-114 |Las Vegas NV 89145