Love Sense Book Review - Emotional Focused Therapy in Las Vegas

There are so many resources for personal growth that exist today, from books, podcast, blogs and youtube videos. While there is a lot of useful information, there is also information that might not be helpful for you. My goal is to share books that I would recommend to couples or individuals when seeking therapy. This book review of Love Sense breaks down what the book can do for you.

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationship by Sue Johnson

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Sue John, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, share her perspective and scientific evidence around the science of love and attachment throughout this book. She presents new evidence that tells us humans are made for attachment to another. Dr. Johnson explains about attachment bonds as we developed with our parent’s and how that influences how we develop romantic relationships. This book starts to break down that love is not logical, but there is a logic to love. This book can help any couple who is disconnected and is wanting to build a stronger relationship.

Good parts of the book

This book is terrific at connected the latest in science to show the importance of relationships. You will learn how to connect to emotions and share them with your romantic partner so that you can feel safer and more connected. Dr. Johnson has a loving perspective and never talks about what is right or wrong, but share more from the standpoint of does it work or not. Anyone who is wanting to improve their relationship and build a solid foundation of love, safety and connection could benefit from this book.

Not so good parts of the book

This book is an easy read, but not necessarily for the logically minded. The science is sound and is explained but if you struggle with emotions and find yourself more logically based this book is not for you. If you are the more emotional one in a relationship you will get a lot out of this book, but your partner might be more logical, and they might not feel as connected to the book.

Whats inside Love Sense

The book is broken into four parts, each covering its own topic expiring relationships and love.

Part 1 – The Relationship Revolution
Chapter 1 – Love: A Paradigm Shift
Chapter 2 – Attachment: The key to Love

This part of the book outlines the essence of love and attachment bonds. Giving an overview of what attachment theory is, to sharing studies of adult attachment. She explaines when we achieve safe, loving relationships we have lower fear, stress, emotional turmoil. Sue makes the connection that when you can be securely connected (attached) to a romantic partner, you have the foundation for a long lasting relationship.

Part 2 – The New Science of Love
Chapter 3 – The emotions
Chapter 4 – The Brain
Chapter 5 – The Body

This part of the book as the name suggests explores all the science behind emotion and attachment, affect regulation, how neurochemistry of love shapes the brain, and how emotionally connect to how we express our sexuality. Dr. Johnson shows how EFT not only increases relationship satisfaction but also lowers distress and insure by having relationship form more secure bonds.

Part 3 – Love in Action
Chapter 6 – Love across time
chapter 7 – Unraveling bonds
Chapter 8 – Renewing bonds

In this part, Dr. Johnson reviews the process for forming bonds across the development stages of a lifetime. Then looks and how and why relationship fail. From living alone together to the sudden snap that can shatter relationships. She ends this section of the book with how to start to recognize patterns of your relationship cycle, and how to stop painful disconnection. Then how to replace a relations cycle that is built on the disconnect with how to become more emotionally engaged and vulnerable. Chapter 8 is the most action-heavy part of the book that gives direct prospect on how to grow connection.

Part 4 – The New Science Applied
Chapter 9 – A Love Story
Chapter 10 – Love in the 21st Century

This last section in the book looks at our world today. How we all have a universal need to belong and be in loving connection. This part of the book shows how if we all could find attachment, safety, and connection what our world might look like.

Who this book helps

This book is good for anyone who wants to understand what is happening under the surface of a relationship. Dr. Johnson breaks down what is going on in our brain at critical moments in a relationship.

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