Looking for Couples Counseling in Las Vegas?
Feeling disconnected or thinking your partner just doesn’t listen to you? Relationship problems come in all shapes and sizes including life stress, different work schedules, money, parenting, sickness, in-laws and so much more. These are just some of the thing that can be problems in your marriage or relationship, from finding out about your partner’s pornography use to a possible affair. Whatever problems you have in your relationship it is keeping you from being the best possible couple.
Relationship issues don’t just get fixed on their own. You might have even promised each other to start fresh or have a “do-over” and that you can just put everything in the past and have a happy, healthy relationship from this point forward. Yet you both keep falling back into the same old pattern that keeps you disconnected. Disconnection comes from dealing with everyday fights, addictions, affairs, and just having an overwhelming life. We offer couples counseling specializing in many different problems couples face. If you’re not quite ready to jump into the relationship therapy, check out our couples counseling blog. We cover all types of topics, issues, problems and offer solutions for forming a healthier relationship.
Common Reasons Why You Might Seek Out Couples Counseling
Poor Communication: Couples Counseling
The number one issue I hear from couples after starting couples therapy is “we need to improve our communication skills.” You might face some of these common communication issues that include going on and on in a fight where both of you become emotionally overwhelmed. This leads you to raise your voice, repeating the same thing over and over. You most likely have tried to compromising, negotiating and problem-solving, but it doesn’t seem to help improve communication.
Common Communication Issues That Couples Counseling Helps With
- Yelling and screaming at each other
- One of you apologizes too much
- You give your partner the silent treatment
- Speaking in absolutes
- Not good at asking for what you need
- Not listening to each other OR not feeling heard
- Bring up past issues when you are already fighting (keeping score)
- Using harsh words
- Not giving each other enough time to talk
When we work with couples, we use Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method (you can learn more below). Both of these proven methods help you gain a new way to communicate where you feel emotionally connected and avoid the negative cycle of fighting that you find yourself in now. You will find ways to change the ways in which you talk and develop a new ways of communicating that fosters safety and love. Contact us today to start to build a healthy communication style that is focused on love, nurturing and building a connection with each other. To learn more about how to have healthy relationship, check out our couples therapy blog.
Codependency: Couples Counseling
You or your partner might feel codependent. You might look for anything outside of yourself to try to feel better. Maybe you have a hard time being yourself, or you have developed ways to avoid or numb your feelings. If you see yourself as someone who is codependent, you want to take care of someone who is difficult, but in taking care of them has become compulsive and defeating. You might feel like a martyr or rescuer. If you have done this for a while, you might feel rewarded in being needed, and when you are not feeling needed, you feel lost alone and helpless.
Codependency Issues That Couples Counseling Will Help With
- Feelings of anxiousness when away from your partner
- You will do anything to hold onto a relationship to avoid feeling abandonment
- A tendency to be hurt when your partner does recognize your efforts
- You take responsibility for the actions of others
- Lack of trust in yourself and your partner
- Having poor communication skills
- You feel reactive to your paern’s thoughts or feelings
- Take everything personally or feel like a victim
With codependency couples counseling you will learn the patterns of your behavior and how staying stuck in that behavior cycle isn’t working. You will learn new ways to own and share your emotional needs, from learning how to become more dynamic in sharing your emotions, to set clear boundaries. Book a session with us today to break free of the drama of codependency. You can also read more about how to form healthy boundaries and healthy relationships in our relationship blog.
Our clients who display codependency learn the patterns of their behavior, and how rescuing others sometimes has the opposite effect of what they want. We help our clients learn to set boundaries and break free of the drama of codependency.
Healing Affairs and Infidelities : Couples Counseling
Many couples who enter therapy after the discovery of an affair or what is considered an affair to one of the partners. No matter what has happened, the relationship is experiencing a breach of trust. When you experience this breach of trust, it changes your sense of safety that you had in the relationship. These wounds from infidelity craft distrust and disconnection. Click here to learn more about affair therapy.
Issues That Come With Affairs & Infidelity That Couples Counseling Can Help With
- Intense emotions from the betrayal trauma
- Loss of trust in your partner
- Lower self-esteem for the hurt partner, along with guilt and shame for the partner who strayed
- Emotional instability, feeling like you’re on a roller coaster of emotions
- Increased anxiety or depression symptoms
- PTSD symptoms
- Unable to concentrate, perform work duties, or take care of the family
When you start couples counseling, we help both partners look within themselves and begin to help them foster what they emotional need from each other. You will learn how to handle the inevitable triggers that occur and learn how to help foster a healthy way to handle the pain by joining together. Contact us today to start to create a lasting, fulfilled, richer relationship. You can also learn more about how to heal and form a healthy relationship by checking out our relationship blog.
Sexual Addiction & Pornography Addiction: Couples Counseling
Affair, infidelities, looking at porn and hiding it all create a breach of trust in the relationship. No matter what compulsive sexual behavior you have or your partner has, it is hurting your relationship. The intense feeling of pain and hurt, along with shame and guilt, can start to be healed with couples counseling. Couples can overcome sex addiction or porn addiction; it just takes time. Learn more about Sexual Addiction & Pornography addiction: Couples Counseling here.
Issues That Come With Sexual Addiction & Pornography Addiction That Couples Counseling Can Help With
- Dealing with the fall out of STD’s
- Intense emotions from the betrayal trauma
- Loss of trust in your partner
- Lower self-esteem for the hurt partner, along with guilt and shame for the partner who strayed
- Emotional instability, feeling like you’re on a roller coaster of emotions
- Increased anxiety or depression symptoms
- PTSD symptoms
- Unable to be constructive, perform work duties, or take care of the family
- Negative impact on your sex life (unable to perform sexually or the lack of interest in sex)
If you are ready to start to heal your relationship from the hurt and the pain that comes from a partner that has a sexual addiction & pornography addiction contact us today. Couples counseling will be a safe place to explore all the pain and hurt and learn how to heal. If you think your partner or you have a possible sexual addiction or a porn addiction, check out our recovery program at www.richerliferecovery.com . You can also learn more by reading our blog on sexual compulsive behavior.
Premarital: Couples Counseling
Congratulations! You have decided to make a deeper commitment with your partner. Premarital counseling will help you take the first steps in creating a solid foundation in your marriage. Our pre-marriage counseling focuses on learning improved communication skills and improving your conflict resolution skills. You will be able to work through hot button issues like financial management, religion, and how to raise children, along with learning how to spot and deal with unsolvable problems.
Common Reason Why Couples Come To Pre Marriage Counseling
- How you will manage your finances as a couple
- What you both will do when conflict arises
- You will learn to protect your relationship
- Review your expectations for each other
- What starting your family might look like, and the role your extended family plays in your relationship
Start your marriage off right foot by booking a session with us today.
The Effectiveness of Couples Counseling
Couples counseling can help you reconnect and develop the skills to foster a successful relationship. Relationship counseling will help increase your relationship satisfaction and improves both partners committed to the relationship. When you start couples counseling, you will have less relationship distress, and the positive effects of couples counseling will continue well after your done with relationship therapy. To learn more
Approaches In Working With Couples.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
EFT works by helping couples learn and change their own emotional responses to things. Couples learn how to spot their cycle of disconnection and will gain a greater understanding of what the emotion drivers are in each other. Couples counselors that use EFT report 90% significant improvement in the relationship. This approach to counseling creates such safety within the relationship that it changes the brain. You can learn more about EFT here.
Gottman Method
Dr. John Gottman has been studying couples for over 30 years and has developed necessary behavior actions that can be taken to improve a relationship. In couples therapy, we use the Gottman’s research and apply it to your relationship. The Gottman Method has been shown to help improve relationships. You learn more about the effectiveness of the Gottman method click here.
Common Reason Why Couples Avoid Relationship Therapy
How do you know if it’s too late to save your relationship? (because we are separated, broken up, ready to sign divorce papers)
Let me be honest that it might be too late for some relationships. Some people only come to couples counseling to go through the motions. Usually, that is when I see someone who is apathetic to the relationship. However, many couples I have worked with have saved their relationship, even when they were ready to sign divorce papers, because they both committed to working on the relationship. Even if you feel numb, checked out, or angry and that is leading you to feel like you’re done, repair and healing can happen. I tell my clients who have lost hope to try 1 session and at the end of one session if you are not feeling hopeful, then it might just be too late.
My partner doesn’t want to come to couples counseling so what do I do?
If your partner doesn’t want to go to couples counseling, you just give me a call today. What I have found is that many reasons keep someone outside of the therapy office. Yet if you see the problem, you will be able to do the work to start to improve your relationship. You can learn the skills, and in taking action yourself, the relationship will improve.
My partner thinks the therapist will be on my side so won’t come? We tried couples counseling in the past and had a bad experience?
Sometimes people have poor experiences with therapy. This happens when a therapist chooses sides. My job as your couples counselor is to help the relationship and that means focusing on the relationship as a whole. Seeing how both of you impact the relationship and hold both of you accountable to the relationship. Sometimes we spend more time with one partner, but you should never feel as if your therapist is on one side or the other. If you feel that way you should talk to your therapist about those feelings or find a new therapist.
I promise that if you can attend one session together, you will learn something new about each other. Along with understanding of what is happening in your relationship. All of my couples counseling clients leave the first session with feelings of hope about having a game plan on how to improve their relationship.
Improve Your Relationship Now
Once you start couples therapy, you will learn new behaviors that will help you reconnect with your partner. We help you take the first steps to improve your relationship. Contact us today or request an appointment below to start to developing your relationship so that it becomes an exceptional relationship. You can also continue to learn about relationships by checking out our relationship blog here.